YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN! FIGHT FOR YOURSELF

Man is not an island to survive alone. The human being was created to rely on others for survival. However, as time goes by, one learns that the list of friends they have created is something that can be prioritized. At the top end is the family that is almost equivalent to a man’s soul. For the family a man is always willing to sacrifice the happiness of friends at the bottom of the list for the sake of the family happiness if the situation so demands. Of course the situation must not always demand we choose between friends and family. From experience, it in many instances occurs, and especially when it comes to making important life decisions, that we have to choose between conflicting alternatives. At the extreme end it will be a situation where we have to choose between us and others.

Experience has it that the individualism that accompanies civilization heavily penalizes irrationality. In this regard, if you are too weak to make decisions that favor you first it will mean that you have surrendered the control of your own life to others. You cannot please everyone. Besides, you are not the old wise man in the ancient stories who always had a solution for every vagabond. Like a chess game, you are the king of your life and the game cannot continue unless you are well protected. So shun off that fear, let go of that friendship and demand of the society in favor of pursuing your own destiny. Destiny is not something that is real, like many ‘soaps and movies’ would like to portray. On the contrary, it is something that is controlled and made by one’s decisions. The reason why the modern society is considered free is because individuals are free, like atoms in a solid, and hence are influenced individually by external changes. They therefore should not fear the bombardments with other atoms on their way to the surface were they can enjoy free air flow and sunshine.

In conclusion, one need not be inconsiderate, but it always has to be about you then the others. After all, you are on your own. Just like in a chess game, friends should always be ranked in order of importance they bring to your life. You should have many pawns, those whom you talk about weather, football and all the nonsense but no attachments. Those you should find easy to let go if they pretend to enter the inner circle of your life unless they genuinely earn that. Then you must have the bishops and the knights who you are attached to but can be sacrificed for the rooks, the queen and the king. The rooks are your family and the queen your spouse. Remember that the rational elite have mastered the game such that any piece can be sacrificed for the overall individual success and they too don’t bother to be sacrificed. So from today you had better learn what piece you are in your friend’s chess board where they are the kings.